Gender is not a choice

The heartwarming story of the Brisbane parents who posted a classified to announce their trans son’s coming out has been all over social media the past few days.

In the notice, the family says in 1995 they placed an ad to announce the birth of their daughter Elizabeth Anne.

“He informs us that we were mistaken. Oops! Our bad. We would now like to present, our wonderful son – Kai Bogert. Loving you is the easiest thing in the world. Tidy your room,” the notice read.

That’s awesome! What supportive parents. Too bad the media isn’t so supportive. Kai’s decision to share his true gender identity with his family is reported like this (emphasis mine): Continue reading

New victim stats reveal Pakeha privilege

On Friday the Police released the first of their new series of statistics, “Recorded crime victims statistics”. The media release says these are an improvement on the old recorded offences numbers, and aim to “count the victims behind the crimes” in order to “provide new information about victims and a more complete picture of who is affected by crime in New Zealand”. The victims statistics will be complemented by statistics on offenders, to be released next year.

This change in reporting is a positive step towards humanising talk about crime.
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What have we done to our daughters?

So the police have decided not to lay charges against the “roast busters” statutory rapists of West Auckland. They cite a lack of evidence, with very little eyewitness testimony and most of the available evidence being of the “hearsay” type that judges tend to disallow.

One contributing factor to this lack of evidence was a lack of victims willing to make formal statements:

Police said 25 girls who were believed to be victims of some form of sexual offending refused to provide formal statements.

However, a further five girls approached by police did make formal statements. Those five joined two girls who had already contacted police but whose complaints had languished until media attention brought the case to prominence.

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Defining masculinity positively

Someone on Twitter posted this the other day (sorry, I forget who). It’s terrific:

… you’ve inherited the responsibility of creating a new answer to the ancient question of what it means to be a man. The old answers are no good.

Whether you believe that’s true because sexism harms men as much as women, or because feminism has undermined men too much, the article is a sterling read. Go look!

How to treat a woman wearing headphones like she’s not human

So apparently today the Prime Minister conveniently found some evidence of terrorist activity in New Zealand to justify the law change he’s about to force through to reduce our freedoms even further and also make the terrorist breeding-grounds of the world even more likely to target us because of the creepy little-brother thing we have going on with the USA where we unquestioningly follow them into every ridiculous conflict they interfere with, so today instead of getting any more depressed about civil liberties, we’re going to have a laugh.

Dan Bacon is a self-styled “dating and relationship expert”. I’m not going to link to him. You can look him up if you like.

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